For today’s post, my friend Helen suggested marriage or manatees. I know nothing about manatees so I’ll stick with marriage. Thanks for such a great topic!
I know that I want to get married and start a family, but that’s about all I know right now. I’m not one of those people who has the whole event planned on pinterest and I doubt I’ve even met the person I’ll marry. We’ll see! When it comes to marriage, I don’t know much, but I do know that I have some amazing role models: my parents. When I look at them, I see two people in love who can always make each other laugh (but still have intelligent conversations), support each other’s wants and dreams, and together tackle anything life throws at them. It is this strength and support that I know I will look for in my future husband. Next week is infertility awareness week and this post seems like an appropriate time to talk about these issues because I know they’ll be a part of my marriage. Those of you who have been following my blog since the beginning might remember when I got the heartbreaking news that my egg retrieval efforts did not work (Shots, Shots, Shots). The radiation I needed before my transplant was likely to zap any eggs I had left, so they were trying to save some for me. Even though the doctors did everything they could to protect my reproductive system from the chemo, they think I might’ve had damage from my earlier treatments. Needless to say, this news was devastating, but I’m glad I found out now instead of after trying and failing and getting frustrated once I’m married. Even though I know it’ll be a weird issue to bring up in relationships now (because who wants to think about these things), I know that it’ll help me find someone who is willing to work through the options with me and fight for our future family. I’ve heard that this struggle can make the success sweeter, and I’ve watched other people in similar situations have beautiful families. I also remind myself that my treatments took one option away from me, but they kept me alive so I can explore my other options and who knows what the future will bring. Speaking of exploring, I’ll get back to the marriage topic. I see myself with someone adventurous and open to exploring new places, new experiences, and new ideas. I know we won’t agree on everything (and I wouldn’t want to) but I love to talk to open-minded people who can make me think. I hope all my readers, if you want to get married, can find someone who will support you in sickness or in health and on adventures big and small. I don’t care if you’re gay or straight or fertile or infertile – I just hope you’re happy.
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AuthorI’m Karen. I was originally diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL) in August 2004 when I was 10 years old. When I was working on my college and scholarship application essays two years ago, I wrote about my journey. Although it was a rough few years, it became such an influential part of my life that I can’t, and wouldn’t want to, imagine my life without having had cancer. I called it the worst best thing that ever happened to me. Archives
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